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Eating Disorders Are Exhausting

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If you have ever struggled with an eating disorder you will probably understand what I am about to share. If you know someone with an eating disorder I hope I can help you better understanding the battle that goes on in the mind of someone struggling.

I have struggled with an eating disorder as far back as I can remember since the age eighteen years old. I know I had some issues with food as a little girl as well. I can remember at the age eight having feelings that no matter what I ate it was never enough. Looking back now I had some deep rooted feelings I was trying to pacify with food. 

But when you are struggling with food issues or an eating disorder it is very hard for the person to understand why they can’t just ‘stop the behavior.’ This was the mental battle I found myself in many times.

I remember when I was eighteen years old I gave birth to my second child and all I could think about were the friends my age who were wearing bathing suits and cute clothes and I was willing to do whatever it would take to lose the weight and be like them. Not to mention the father of my children was always unfaithful and this just reinforced my fear to be skinner in hopes he would never cheat again. Just so you know you can’t change someone else by being a better version of you. But all my fears led me to my first diet.

This started a cycle of me constantly being on a diet for the next twenty years of my life. But you see anytime I fell off the diet it was a reassurance of the thoughts, you aren’t good enough. I would hear things like, you see you are a failure, you will always be fat, you are not doing it right, don’t go to the party there will be too much food, stay home from going out with your friends so you don’t have to be around food. I can go on and on with the thoughts running through my head, but what I want to share is eating disorders are a trap and I believe they are a trap from the enemy that come to kill us, and steal from us and keep us isolated.

I always wondered why couldn’t I stop when I wanted too? I mean I desperately wanted to be free from all these behaviors. And I confess I tried everything to get free… from following a stricter plan, going to 12 step food recovery meetings and get prayed over. I READ some many books learning how others got free and it gave me insight but never freed me.

Why God? Why? Is what I asked all the time…

But it took me a while to come to the end of myself.

Today I believe eating disorders are rooted in fear and lies. Which are the opposite of God’s character. He does not lie to us about who’s we are and who we are and FEAR is not from him.

We are created perfect in his eyes and we are fearfully and wonderfully made.

So if you are struggling with an E.D. please slow down and ask Jesus to expose the hidden areas in your heart.

Here are some questions to ask yourself. What am I afraid of? What lies am I believing about myself that is keeping bound to a diet because I feel I am not good enough?

You see when you binge or don’t eat enough it’s because you believe you are not good enough or there is something wrong with you, or if you don’t change you may feel you are not lovable. WHICH THIS IS FAR FROM THE TRUTH!

Or maybe you are struggling with overeating trying to stuff some emotions you don’t want to feel.

In order for me to go more in detail about this topic I would have to write a very long blog. But I am hoping with what I shared with you that it was an insight to the battle you may be in. I know for a long time I searched for help and I learned that I had to surrender to Jesus and let him expose the lies and pain in my heart.

I would love to hear from you and I would love to speak into this area of your life.

I was in bondage and torment for many many years but when I surrendered all my ways and trusted Jesus in this area of my life things finally changed. Remember it is a process and a man made plan will never set you free but keep you into more bondage of rules.

When people are struggling with an eating disorder and addiction you are not going to be able to help them until they admit they have a problem and they are willing to go to any measure to get help.

Spending time with Jesus heals us, changes us, helps us and guides us in the next steps we should take in life.

Jeremiah 33:3

“Ask Me and I will tell you remarkable secrets you do not know about things to come.”

Let go of Fear and People-Pleasing!

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Let go of Fear and People-Pleasing!

It’s a natural feeling to want to be accepted by other people or to feel part of a group but this behavior can often leave you full of fear and constantly trying to people please. This is a behavior that can be taught as young as a child and be carried over into our adult life. We want others to like us, and if they start to be mean or distant towards us we often don’t understand why. Or maybe you are like me and were raised by a parent who intimidated you into submission, you weren’t allowed to express how you truly felt and no matter what you did you were always wrong. Most people who struggle with people-pleasing usually have a deeper-rooted problem. There is an underlying fear base issue going on and until we get to the bottom of that we will never find our true self. I would like to share with you some tips that helped me to get free from people-pleasing, it takes a lot of daily practice. I love the words of Joyce Meyers, “do it afraid.” There are times where I have had to tell people “no” or tell people “that doesn’t work for me” and it was scary at first. What you have to understand is your true friends will stick around and be understanding. The friends or family members who get mad at you, there is nothing you can do about it and that is not your responsibility. We have to get to a place in our life where we are not allowing other people to control our life. Plus, you will never be able to please everybody.

 

TIPS FOR LETTING GO OF FEAR AND PEOPLE-PLEASING

 

  • Ask God to show you where the fear is coming from. 
  • If this is a real problem for you, consider getting professional help to pinpoint the cause.
  • Start using your voice more often by expressing how you feel. This can be scary at first.
  • Learn to say No, more often. No is a complete sentence.
  • Take time to discover who you are as a person. What interest you? What are your values? How do you like to dress?
  • If you say yes to something and get resentful later, its okay to back out. Everyone over commits.

 

I hope you find this helpful!

 

 

 

It’s NOT about what you WEIGH but how you THINK!

It’s NOT about what you WEIGH but how you THINK! 150 150 Paula

Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a NEW person by changing the way you THINK. And you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect. Romans 12:2

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I love this scripture. I use to think that you become a new person by the way you LOOK! That is the BIGGEST lie people believe. God wants to make you whole and healthy from the inside out. And it starts with your mind and the way you THINK, not look. Looking a certain way or weighing a certain number does not make you more acceptable to God. God wants you to understand that you are acceptable right where your are at.  All God is asking of you is to receive His love, love yourself, and to be good stewards of your temple He has given you. Then leave the rest to Him. He knows what your natural weight should be. Are you ready to do the work and leave the outcome to Him? God has got me to such a place of peace in my life that I don’t even weigh myself anymore. I use to weigh myself all the time to use as a measuring stick to see if I was GOOD enough. The day you and I were born, we were already good enough because we were created in His image and He has an amazing plan for our life. Don’t let your identity or weight stop you from knowing God’s will for your life, which is good, pleasing, and PERFECT! Below I will attach a routine that helps me to practice a healthy lifestyle.

YOU are already ENOUGH, my friend!

Eating healthy does take time and work but it is worth it. The more you can get organized in your life and plan ahead the easier it is. Here are some tips that help me:

*I clean my fridge every weekend. Just a quick run through and wipe down.

*I write out a meal plan for my family on the weekends. Making sure there are healthy snack and lunch options.

*Make your grocery list and only buy what’s on your plan for the week. It helps save money! 🙂

*When cooking try to always prep your lunch for the next day. Prep your veggies ahead of time.

*Always keep fresh fruit on the counter.

*Take a good multivitamin and drink water.

*Plan a time when you can be active 3-5x a week.

*Be gentle with yourself and very loving. Being healthy is NOT a number on the scale. We all have FEELINGS of I’m not doing it good enough or I messed up. This isn’t truth. See it as a bump and keep going.

Here is to a healthier 2016!!!!!

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