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Trauma Survivor | Speaker | Author

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Hi. I’m Paula and I am a trauma survivor bringing hope and freedom to those who are suffering from trauma and addiction. I had a story to tell, but I couldn’t put all the pieces together because of my childhood trauma. I am passionate about helping others make sense of their story…

Cross Addicted

Breaking Free From Family Trauma and Addiction

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What do you do if God says, no? You wait. What

What do you do if God says, no?
You wait.

What do you do if He says, not now? You wait and trust Him.

What do you do if He tells you, you are not ready?
You wait.
You cry.

You ask Him to get everything out of your flesh that stands in the way of your calling.

What if you ask again, now God and He says, no?

You trust that He is working in your life and preparing you for BIG things!

Learn to trust God when things don't make sense. It's hard, I get it! He knows best and He has an amazing plan for you.

this. 100% #repost @artofhomage

this. 100% #repost @artofhomage

I know I’ve been a little MIA on social media la

I know I’ve been a little MIA on social media lately, but I’m in a process of learning how to walk out this new season.

I show up on here, my podcast, and in my writing to share my journey through life to help others know they can overcome anything in their life with Christ.

I have finally surrendered a coping mechanism that I have used for the last 26 years. I thought I could fix my brokenness and self-worth through a number on the scale, but no matter what that number said I still felt the same about myself.

For 26 years I was either restricting myself of food or binge eating. Even though the Lord sets us free we still have to walk out that process. And that process can feel scary when you let go of control.

I’m learning to eat consistently in a healthy way, which I’ve never done in my life. Yes, my weight is the highest it’s ever been lately but that’s okay, because I’m finally treating my body right.

I feel in this world society puts so much pressure on how women should look. And it robs us of truly enjoying our life, marriage, and children. I know this ISSUE has robbed me of a lot of time and joy.

Whenever God wants to take me to a next level, I know not to delay the process. Let me tell you why. Because on the other side of the process is a deeper breakthrough.

So here goes to the first time in my life I’m truly learning to love myself.

Some of you might be thinking, oh, just get over yourself. But those who have been affected by trauma are always stuck with a deep mental mess that has to be cleaned up.

I’m learning how to sit with who I am. Yes, it’s nice to be a speaker and author but I never want to find my worth or validation through social media likes or having people worship me.

I pray that my vulnerability today will help you feel encouraged and know you are loved. Keep showing up just how you are because the world needs your light. Paula

God wants you free. You were created in His image.

God wants you free. You were created in His image. You don’t have to repeat patterns of your family if they were unhealthy. Period.

The hardest work a trauma survivor will ever have

The hardest work a trauma survivor will ever have to do is learn to love themselves. After experiencing multiple types of abuse we usually carry the weight of feeling unworthy of love. The truth is the moment God formed you in your mother’s womb, you were created in love and for love. Actually, the creator of heaven and earth made you perfect. Before the enemy of this world tried to take you out, God’s hand was already upon you. It’s time to rise up, heal, and do the work to be set-free!

Have you ever asked yourself the question what is

Have you ever asked yourself the question what is normal?

I know I hit a point in my life where I was living in abuse and surrounded by addiction. I’ll never forget the day when I challenged myself with the question, I wonder if this is normal. What if there is a different way of living?

I started my journey in a 12 step recovery program, then gave my life to Christ, which finally landed my butt into trauma therapy.

You know what I learned. I was mimicking the brokenness I grew up in. I thought poverty, addiction, and abuse were normal.

When Jesus began to heal my inner wounds I learned these things:

•we can live in freedom. free of all bondages.
•I can have a healthy marriage and relationships.
•it’s okay to live in a clean and organized home free of abuse and chaos.
•I don’t always have to struggle financially.
•Jesus wants to heal all negative thoughts towards myself. (Still in process)

My point of sharing this is I want to encourage you to take the time to heal. It is so worth it and so are you!

Nine years ago today, I was lucky enough to marry

Nine years ago today, I was lucky enough to marry this man! Happy 9th anniversary!

I wanted to share some memory photos today and a little back story… A old friend of ours set us up on a blind date. I told her I would go once, but as a single mom I don’t really have time to date.

After Jeff Jauch started stalking my Facebook before our first coffee date, he got a little nervous. He prayed and told God, she has four kids and a grandbaby. Jeff shared with me that he heard God say, Jeff you can do it!

And that is what this man has done. He has been so faithful to the call. Not only did he support me 100% in my journey of healing from trauma, he has been such a loving father to my children and grandchildren. Jeff and I know marriage is not easy, but we both understand to keep Jesus first, take care of our mental health, and to support each other in our goals and dreams. If you are waiting on a spouse, or hurting, I want you to know healing, joy, and love is possible!! As trauma survivors it’s important that our spouses are healthy enough to support us. ❤️❤️

Healing is never easy, but it is always worth it.

Healing is never easy, but it is always worth it. I often hear many say I don’t know what to do or where to start. I want to encourage you to pray, God, I’m ready…will you guide me. There are many 12-step programs, and you can even attend virtually. Maybe find a good therapist or mentor. No matter the length you have to go to, just take the first step. Healing and freedom is a beautiful gift from God. It helps us to be free from torment and suffering in our mind, relationships, and health. The more we heal, the clearer our vision of life and self become. Take it one day at a time.

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