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Trauma Survivor | Speaker | Author

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Hi. I’m Paula and I am a trauma survivor bringing hope and freedom to those who are suffering from trauma and addiction. I had a story to tell, but I couldn’t put all the pieces together because of my childhood trauma. I am passionate about helping others make sense of their story…

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Breaking Free From Family Trauma and Addiction

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As we are healing, we are also growing and not eve

As we are healing, we are also growing and not everybody is going to like it. Today, we are going to tackle the topic of change, so as a trauma survivor you don’t let anything or anybody hold you back. You are worthy of having a good life.

There is a big difference between a broken person

There is a big difference between a broken person and someone working through their feelings. A broken person stays there and doesn’t know how to move forward. Someone feeling their feelings works through it and keeps going. Part of life and the growing process is learning to feel. Ask God to show you what you may need at this time in your life. It might be speaking to Him, journaling, taking a walk or bath, or maybe even calling a friend. People who know how to get in touch with their feelings also know how to love deeply.

I usually don’t have much to say on Mother’s D

I usually don’t have much to say on Mother’s Day, but today I’m going to speak from my heart. My earthly mother is no longer with us. When she was alive I did a lot of grieving and after she was gone. What I discovered through my healing process was I really didn’t know her. She was absent a lot in my life... and I will leave it at just that. So I don’t think I was really grieving her, but more the deep wounds from not having a mom that I would have liked. At the age 24 I stumbled my way into a 12 step recovery program. I remember saying in the meeting I don’t care about anything. I hate who I am and I don’t want to live anymore. This woman in this picture came over and handed me her business card. After about a week, I gave her a call. For the last 20+ years she has poured into my life. We talk on the phone everyday. She loved me when I didn’t know how to love myself. She taught me many life skills. She is the mother I never had. I call her my spiritual mom. In the 12 step program she is called a sponsor. A lot of church folks look down on recovery programs because they say higher power until people find God. In this program I found Jesus and so has so many other people. In this program people who don’t have family... find families. I share this post today to say, Mother’s Day can look different for so many people. And I’ll end with this, my earthly mom wasn’t a bad person, she was just broken, which made her emotionally and physically unavailable. Happy Mother’s Day to all the moms out there! If you can relate to this post, know that God wants to heal your heart!

One of the most self-defeating patterns you can st

One of the most self-defeating patterns you can stay in is trying to get affirmation or love from someone who doesn’t even love themselves. If you truly want to heal, do the hard work, and walk through any pain or rejection you might be feeling. I spent many years in a cycle of self-hate all because other people could not love me like I deserved. When you learn to start loving yourself you will no longer accept unacceptable behavior from other people. Trust God and believe that He will bring the right people into your life. And this even includes people who carry the label of family.

In this weeks episode I discussed some of the beha

In this weeks episode I discussed some of the behaviors that took place in my own life when I started my healing process.

The only thing God requires of you, is you to be y

The only thing God requires of you, is you to be you! Stop trying to be like everybody else. You are enough and He has equipped you to walk in your destiny. Stay in your lane.

You can have peace in the waiting... * For years

You can have peace in the waiting...

* For years I believed a lie that I couldn’t find happiness or peace in the waiting of my breakthrough, but I have now discovered this is a trap of the enemy. 👇🏻
* There is not a time limit on what God wants to do in your life. All He ask of you is will you be obedient in the steps He is asking you to take and will you trust the process?
* I want to remind you that no matter what you are waiting on, God is an on time God. God wants to heal every area of your life. Some people get instant healing and for others it may take time and years.
* Why do you ask? Because sometimes it’s scary to give up what comforts us, sometimes it’s scary to believe we actually deserve to be happy and whole.
* Another area where people get stuck is willing to do the hard work in allowing God to pull up any root that is not from Him. (“Jesus replied, “Every plant not planted by my heavenly Father will be uprooted,” Matthew‬ ‭15:13‬ ‭NLT‬)
* A lot of people have suffered from physical, emotional, and sexual abuse. The minute this happens, the enemy places a root of rejection and abandonment in our heart. For years we walk around wondering what is wrong with us?
* Then we run to drugs, alcohol, sex, food, or whatever we can get our hands on. We isolate in our addictions. Do you see the trap of the enemy? God wants to set you free! I don’t care how many years you’ve been in bondage. Jesus’ healing power is the same as when He walked the earth many years ago.
* God has an amazing plan for your life, so stop believing the lie it’s too late or it will always be this way.

God has given each and everyone of us a true ident

God has given each and everyone of us a true identity. Go check out today’s podcast as I share what is takes to heal from past wounds that keep us confused, how to stop caring what other people think, so you can walk in your true identity and be your authentic self.

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