Have you ever met somebody who says, “This is just who I am.”? This is how God made me…
What they’re really saying is:
“I don’t know how to change.”
“I’m not ready to change.”
“I don’t want to change”.
Experiencing trauma throws can off our emotions. Keeping us in a vicious cycle of feeling stuck.
We have to learn that it’s okay to feel our emotions and sit through them. But how do we do that?
Today, I would like to talk to you about five steps that will help you do this. These are five steps that have helped me.
I had to recognize the patterns that I kept falling into. I had to start by being honest with myself. This looks like taking a pause and asking yourself these types of questions:
What are you feeling?
Why are you feeling this way?
What do you need right now?
Learning to identify the triggers that set you off. Even if you have an emotion that you can’t put a finger on. Realize that you’re feeling something. Something feels off.
In that moment learn to self-soothe with healthy behaviors like prayer, journaling, or calling a friend you can talk to.
If you’re not willing to learn, grow and change, you’re gonna stay stuck in a cycle your whole entire life. In order to grow and change, you’ve got to be willing to do something different. Emotional maturity is when we can learn to respond in healthy ways instead of always reacting out of our dysfunction.If you're not willing to learn, grow and change, you're gonna stay stuck in a cycle your whole entire life. In order to grow and change, you've got to be willing to do something different. Click To Tweet
Label Your Emotions
Anything that triggers us from a smell, or a memory, or even a certain sound is a source of information, trying to get our attention to tell us that we may need something. When this happens, I want you to be curious. Stop and ask yourself these types of questions:
What just happened?
What was I feeling?
What set me off?
Where did I feel it in my body?
Then I want you to learn to label the emotion.
Is it loneliness?
Is it fear?
Is it feelings of feeling unworthiness?
I encourage you to find a select few people you are willing to allow to speak into your life and give you feedback.
In April of 2023, I’m going to be starting Trauma Purpose Coaching with a select few of people. I will offer an hour-long coaching session for people who are feeling stuck, and who want to find their purpose after trauma. If you’re feeling stuck in any of these five areas, I want you to send me an email telling me that you want to get on my list.
Please remember, this is a process.
Keep showing up. You’re worth the work.
To hear more on this topic, you can listen to my podcast here.
If you or someone you know is on the journey to recover from childhood trauma, I encourage you to check out my resources.